Saying “get over it” to someone is like saying “forget about your dead loved ones.” Wounds need to be cleaned out and given time before they can start healing on their own. Keywords: cleaned out* not ignored, downplayed, devalued, or whitewashed.
When you speed up, overlook, or minimize a person's healing process you put them at risk. Reducing or lessening someone's pain is also very dangerous. Addressing surface issues does nothing for what's beneath the surface; which is the invisible pain.
You will never get to the root, the invisible pain, if you dismiss the surface, the visible pain. So the next time you see or hear of visible pain do not minimize it, write it off, or speed it up - be present, be understanding, and most of all be empathetic.
-The Creative Counselor